There are times when it is just impossible to FORGIVE. Like tomorrow, who can totally forgive? All those victims who did nothing but enter a building. This was certainly a time to ask God to do the forgiving for so many.
In my own life I can't forgive my children's father who could go to Egypt and ride a camel, but couldn't go 3 miles and visit with his sons.
I also cannot forgive the fellow who hit my son in the back of the head with a baseball bat and killed him. These are times when I have to trust that God will do the forgiving for the wrongs and for my lack of my ability to forgive.
Then we have the Mended Wings site. A father who walked out on his son and daughter and now that his son is an injured war hero fighting to recover, Daddy shows up and someone who can't even put their name on the blog leaves a message to "Forgive"...what a jerk.
Just who should forgive? The boy who just came out of a coma and can't speak, the sister who is at her brother's side each day and had no DAD or Mom, who raised them alone? Daddy had to get Mom to sign off so he could get a Free ride and motel from the Army...isn't that enough? Frankly, he would never have gotten a ride if it would have been up to me. But this Mom is in the position that she just doesn't know what her son would want, so she signed.
I wonder how much money Daddy is ready to hand over to help with this boy for the rest of his life? Considering he needed a Free ride and Free motel...I'd say Mother is on her own..well not really, all her friends and even strangers are backing her and will continue to do so...I am sure.
What really gets me is the idiot who had the nerve to post to HER blog...totally against how she feels. Since the new "wife" has posted in the past trying to "defend" her hubby it would be a good guess that she is the poster. Why doesn't she go get her own blog...I don't even include hubby in that since I bet she makes him sit to P..,,,and I say that without laughing...when you need wifey to do your talking, looks like she's in control.
This all makes me so angry. It just brings back all the ugly in my own life...like when I stood in the hospital at my son's side knowing they couldn't save him...the missing Daddy said, "Maybe he caused his own demise"....I couldn't let go of my son's hand or I would have punched him in the nose. When you get hit in the back of the head it's pretty clear who caused it. Even the DA said the worse kind of killer, kills from behind.
There is just some people you can't forgive. You just gotta ask God to do the forgiving for you and pray he knows you tried but just can't do it yourself.