It was clear they spent no money on getting advice on the Lancaster Amish. How wrong to think when you see one Amish guy, you've seen them all.
Much of the dress and buggies came from the Ohio Amish. I'll start with the Amish men & boys. I had to laugh at the men's hats with the brims bent up like a cowboy hat. The Amish hat has a FLAT brim. You would never see the skin of an Amish man through his shirt because they wear a white tee shirt under their shirts for modesty. The shirts have collars and are in many colors except for the Sunday shirt. I went on many weekly shopping trips to thrift stores with the Amish women who bought up every plain colored shirt in the stores for their husbands and male children.
Little girls wear many colors of dresses which are covered with an A line apron, usually black or grey and always white on Sundays. The dresses do not have a yoke which is gathered below it. They use an A line pattern for less bulk. They had the children dressed in drab colors and ill fitting dresses and aprons. The Lancaster Amish wear the colors found in their quilts, purples, rose, deep gold, royal blue.
The ladies also wear colored dresses and wear either a bibbed black apron or half apron. The Prayer cap was from Lancaster, but they do not tie it. The cap strings are worn long and pushed behind their shoulders. They don't wear the prayer cap to bed! It is placed in a tupperware container to keep it clean when it's not being worn. The women do not hand wash clothing in a tub with a scrub board. The Amish in Lancaster are not so far behind, they even use cell phones outside the house.
The Lancaster buggies are built like a box with a flat bottom. Ohio buggies are easy to pick out because the front and back bottom is cut in the shape of a V, they are black while the Lancaster buggie is gray trimmed in black .
They seem to have gotten their facts from the book written by the local Mennonite neighbors. Of course, this was not a made for TV event so they added drama to the story while missing what really happened. Large donations were sent to a local bank by everyone. The Amish chose to give half of the money to the wife of the shooter and use half to pay the hospital bills for the children who were shot. Unlike the Mennonites who made a profit on this event, the Amish continue to pay the medical bills for these children, some who will always need medical care. They do it with grace among themselves.
You would never find shouting and screaming among the Amish and certainly not in public. At NO time did ANY of the Amish mothers want to leave the order. Yes, there was a lot of crying, at home away from the prying eyes of the public. They are people like you and I who had feelings of anger just like any parent would in that situation. But, their faith didn't allow them to hold onto it.
The only thing they did get right was the message. The Amish hand over their anger and saddness to God. He is the one who will judge, not they. I learned this first hand when I first arrived in Lancaster. My own son was killed in Philadelphia. After a year of struggling with the grief and anger and the trial of the man who killed him, I left Philadelphia looking for some peace of heart because my own bitterness was killing me. We moved into the farmette of Daniel & Katie Beiler. Katie soon taught me to hand over my anger to God and use my time to do his work.
The sad part of this movie is drumming up the event for profit. From the very first minutes after the girls were shot they did everything in their power to keep it private. I can't even imagine why the local mennonites who are suppose to share the same values would expose these gentle people by writing a book for profit.
There are things missing from this story that would tell just how forgiving these parents are, but they are private and known only by those who were invited into the homes. The short time benefit you would get from knowing these things would just not be worth telling when it would violate a friendship.
I have one more thing to add after talking this over with friends. The Amish do not bury from a Funeral Home. What has to be done by law is done at one but then the body is delivered home where the women wash and dress their loved one. They are viewed from the home. The scene where the Amish mother meets the Killers wife on the steps of the Funeral Home just didn't happen.
